Welcome to Untigering!

Hello!

I’m Iris.

Welcome to my new blog: Untigering!

Untigering is for all the tiger moms and dads out there who are trying to be gentle parents.

It’s for those who are attempting to connect with their children through empathy, respect, and kindness when they’ve been conditioned to be “Chinese parents” who rule over their children with strictness, pragmatism, and control.

It’s for the fathers or mothers who want to allow their children to explore educational freedom outside the system when their culture values academic success within the system.

It’s for any parent who is aspiring to raise their children in counter-cultural ways that challenge the norms of their ethnicity, community, or family.

 

How Untigering Began

The idea for Untigering was conceived as I began noticing the unique hurdles I and my Asian American community face when we try to practice gentle parenting. Although there is a plethora of positive parenting resources out there, very few deal with the particular cultural obstacles, hang-ups, and strengths of an East Asian heritage. I’m hoping this blog can help fill in that gap and give voice to the struggles of many Asian American parents.

As a Chinese American living in China, I’ll be sharing my own adventures in gentle parenting as a deconstructing tiger mother. I’ll be discussing how my changing perspectives on parenting have led me to walk away from traditional schooling to pursue unschooling for my kids. I’ll be exploring how my cultural heritage informs and influences the choices I make for my family.

And I hope you’ll join in the Untigering conversation with me.

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    1. Grace, I checked my subscriptions and didn’t notice your email. Are you following by RSS feed or by email? Would you like me to manually add you to my mailing list?

  1. Amazing. I can relate to this quite a bit… it’s been interesting getting untigered from the perspective of being the child and now the parent. Cool concept!

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