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UNTIGERING is a global movement of cycle breakers who are committed to the practice of peaceful parenting and self-directed education — honoring, respecting, and trusting in the inherent dignity and rights of children as human beings.

Together, we are unlearning and dismantling the ways of tiger parenting (with its roots in authoritarianism, domination, fear, and trauma), particularly within the cultural context of Asian families.

The vision of UNTIGERING is to inspire intergenerational & cultural transformation through parenting practices grounded in anti-oppression, decolonization, nonviolence, and personal & communal healing.

We imagine a future of collective liberation for us all!

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the process of detoxing from being tiger parented.
the process of detoxing from being a tiger parent.

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Struggling with parenting & wanting to experience a powerful transformation in your family? Get 1:1 support with Iris.

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Parenting & unschooling workshops to deepen your practice of anti-oppression in your homes & communities.

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Group coaching, Untigering parent community, and regular support! Find a membership tier that fits your needs.

Thank you, Iris - for creating and sharing this page with the world! When it is easier to go along with prevailing cultural norms, behaviours and attitudes, Untigering is a revolutionary and refreshing movement! I enjoy reading your posts, especially the way you challenge what it means to be a 'tiger parent'. Thank you for sharing your personal journey and for being an inspiration to me.

I am so grateful for Iris and her work sharing the concepts of Untigering. As an Asian American parent I am reflecting on and questioning so much of my upbringing and how I want to parent and educate my children. I have really enjoyed exploring partnership-based parenting and unschooling through her book, interviews in podcasts, blog, and webinars.

So many great resources and original blog posts. Not only is there much wise advice here, but it's offered in a way that's respectful, humble, honest and kind. The 'Untigering' resources have been a great help and encouragement to me as I've been moving towards becoming a more gentle parent.

I wanted to thank you and let you know how much your page has helped as a resource for me to share with clients [at Cardigan Academy] who either have Asian heritage themselves or who have married someone with an Asian heritage and stereotypical upbringing. It's such a specific kind of thing that when clients bring it up in our gentle parenting classes, I'm THRILLED that I can point them to your work!

Thank you for inviting me to your page. I'm a single mom of 4 trying to help break the toxicity handed down in my family for generations. I can feel I'm missing something. I can feel I need help to be the loving mom they deserve. Your page has such good reminders of how we can be loving, gentle parents guiding our precious children as they learn. You do it in a kind, non-judgmental manner. Thank you so much. I need this support in my life.

Untigering has excellent thoughts and encouragement for parents trying to create connected, respectful relationships with their children, while placing value on the child as an autonomous person. I quote this page to someone almost daily!

MEET THE FOUNDER

Hi there! I’m Iris Chen — Chinese American author, unschooling mom, and deconstructing tiger parent to two teenage boys.

I started out as an authoritarian parent whose goal was to raise obedient and high-achieving children.

When my attempts to control them only led to constant conflict and frustration, I knew something had to change… and it wasn’t my children!

I began a journey of healing and shifting away from using power over my children to sharing power with them.

Now as a peaceful parenting advocate, intersectional unschooler, and certified parent coach, my hope is to encourage and support you to do the same.

Thank you for being here!

Iris

Founder & Certified Parent Coach

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From podcasts, to books, to workshops, to parent coaching, it is my hope to provide you with the support you need for your own untigering journey.

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