As a recovering tiger mother, peaceful parenting has never come easily.

My instincts were to suppress emotions, demand compliance,  quash dissent, enforce rules  — just like the way I was trained as a child.

On me, these strategies produced a good, obedient, high-achieving daughter who did everything that was expected of her. On my son, they resulted in emotional meltdowns, violent outbursts, and constant power struggles.

I finally realized something had to change… and it wasn’t my child. 

It was me.

So I began untigering—

I unlearned parenting tools that were rooted in power and domination. I sought my children’s wholeness, not just their obedience. I grieved the harm that I experienced as a child. I faced the lies, wounds, and fears that had unconsciously driven me. 

In reparenting my children, I am reparenting myself.

Now, as a mother, author, activist, and coach, my work centers on healing from power-over relationships and systems through an anti-oppression and decolonial framework. It is my mission to inspire generational and cultural transformation, especially among Asian communities.

Because I have personally experienced the powerful transformation that comes from untigering, I’m so excited to host this series of book club discussions.

Come join me as we dig deeper together.