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I’m Not Responsible For My Child…

I don’t think I’m responsible for my children. I know that’s a bold statement to put out there. Even irresponsible, perhaps? But hear me out. What if we thought of parenting as being responsible TO our children rather than responsible

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Iris Chen September 18, 2023
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Parenting Untigering

Stepping into the Spotlight

As an Asian American woman, I sometimes feel invisible. I've been conditioned to stay small, blend in, not make waves.

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Iris Chen March 29, 2023
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Untigering

The Not-So-Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

The other day, as a P.E. requirement for the charter school that he is enrolled in, KK (my 13yo) had

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Iris Chen February 22, 2023
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Parenting Unschooling Untigering

5 Ways Schoolishness Affects Our Parenting

Many of us in the unschooling world talk about how school conditioning has harmed us and affected our relationship to

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Iris Chen January 17, 2023
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Parenting Unschooling Untigering

8 Battles NOT to Pick With Your Child

As I was scrolling through my IG feed the other day, I was surprised to see a post titled "8

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Iris Chen November 2, 2022
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Parenting Unschooling Untigering

Instead of Chores, Build A Team Mentality

A few months ago, Jason and I went out for a date night. When we returned home, we noticed how

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Iris Chen October 11, 2022
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Parenting Untigering

Intergenerational Healing in “Turning Red”

"Honoring your parents sounds great, but if you take it too far, you might forget to honor yourself." The animated

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Iris Chen March 16, 2022
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Parenting Untigering

How to Foster Sibling Relationships

The other day at dinner, NoNo was complaining that he wasn't feeling well. "My stomach hurts," he moaned. My partner

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Iris Chen December 2, 2021
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Parenting

The Gift of Resentment

NoNo and KK made dinner all by themselves the other day: panko chicken, mashed potatoes, and roasted asparagus and cauliflower.

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Iris Chen August 30, 2021
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Parenting Untigering

5 Unschooling Principles to Practice in Any Context

I’m often asked what unschooling or deschooling principles families can practice even if their children attend traditional school. While I

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Iris Chen June 27, 2021
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Unschooling Untigering