UNTIGER YOUR SELF
for Asian women who want to break generational chains & heal ancestral wounds,
starting with themselves
a 6-week group program
next cohort starting in August 2025
"This 6-week Untigering Intensive felt like coming home to a community I didn't know existed but desperately needed during this time of life & career transition. I felt affirmed and validated in not needing to explain my Chinese culture and norms. People had knowing nods as they echoed the unique challenges that come with growing up 2nd generation in the United States with immigrant parents... The Untigering group shared stories of grief, pain and misunderstanding freely which enabled us to build trust and believe that we are not captive to our pasts. I have hope as well as a useful toolbelt of ideas as I continue my journey - Thank you so much!"
Jessica J.
“I want to acknowledge Iris Chen, the fiercely compassionate and brilliant mind behind Untigering. I have relied on her wisdom in my own parenting and unschooling journey, as well as deepened my understanding of generational trauma healing for myself and my clients. Her perspectives have liberated aspects of my misguided perfectionism and outdated fears and I trust that my own kids have and will continue to benefit from her gentleness that I strive to embody.”
Shannon G.
If you’ve been craving a brave, trauma-informed space to heal your relationship with your inner child, lean into your life’s purpose, and build better relationships with others – whether it’s your parents, child, partner, friend, boss, or coworkers…
this Untigering program was created for you.
Untigering is detoxing from being tiger parented & healing from authoritarian, power-over relationships.
When we’ve been brought up in authoritarian parenting, we can easily become:
- Too hard on ourselves and others
- Perfectionistic
- Resentful
- People-pleasing
- Self-abandoning
But we don’t have to stay that way.
Each week of this small group program is designed to address one of the above points so that you can shift from harshness to gentleness, criticism to compassion, fear to courage, and resignation to radical self-love — no matter how you were raised.
Imagine a world where:
- You are less hard on yourself
- You are able to drop the heavy burden of needing to excel in everything everywhere all at once
- You stop swallowing your emotions or numbing out
- You are no longer constantly frazzled, stressed, & overworked
- You stop betraying yourself and actually listen to your gut instinct instead of overriding it to meet others’ expectations
Even if you haven’t seen this modeled in your family, I want to let you know that this is possible. I know because I’ve experienced the power of untigering for myself!
Just as your parents may have been the first to immigrate to a new place, you can be the first to create this generational change.
This can start with you.
A gift for you, trailblazer!
Get the Redefining Success chapter from the Untigering book by Iris Chen.
This program is for you if you are:
- an Asian woman who is yearning for deep transformation and is ready to heal her relationship with herself and others
- a daughter of immigrants who wants to find her voice, agency, and power
- a conscious mama who is longing to break the cycle of tiger parenting by reparenting herself and the next generation
- a leader who is challenging the cultural status quo & wanting to heal her generational trauma from the root
- a changemaker who is longing for supportive community with other Asians who understand her struggles
This is a place for you to do the deep work in community.
Meet Your Facilitator
Iris Chen: Parent Coach & Founder of Untigering Movement
As a recovering tiger cub and tiger mother, I know what it’s like to be afraid…
Afraid of my dad, afraid of making mistakes, afraid of being weak, afraid of disappointing others, afraid of feeling out of control (or feeling anything, really).
For years, that fear caused me to be intensely critical and controlling of myself and my poor children. It wasn’t until I saw the deep harm I was causing that I began untigering—
I acknowledged and grieved the harm that I experienced as a child. I faced the lies, wounds, and fears that had unconsciously driven me. I became reacquainted with my true self. And I learned to offer her the unconditional love that she deserved.
In healing myself, I know that I am healing my lineage.
As an mother, author, activist, and coach, my work centers on healing from power-over relationships and systems through an anti-oppression and decolonial framework. It is my mission to inspire generational and cultural transformation, especially among Asian communities.
Because I have personally experienced the powerful transformation that comes from untigering, I’m so excited to bring you this life-changing series.
Come join me as we return home to our selves!
Three Core Pillars
Self-Knowledge
Who am I?
Learn how to better understand yourself & your inner child as well as identify your motivations, feelings, & values through embodied practices.
Self-Compassion
Am I loved and worthy?
Build shame-resilience and empathy for your wounds, behaviors, emotions, imperfections, and the “messy middle.”
Self-Advocacy
Does this align with who I am & my values?
Know your own power & worth, set boundaries, express your needs, and take aligned action.
The Curriculum
Untiger Your Self is a holistic journey that explores your:
PAST (childhood wounds & intergenerational patterns)
PRESENT (self-knowledge & healing practices)
FUTURE (self-alignment & generational change)
This curriculum is designed to address the specific cultural norms and traumas that Asian women face and integrate the core of our cultural wisdom to strengthen the 3 core SELF pillars above.
These 6 weeks will lay the foundation for transformation and give you tools for a lifetime. And you will get to do it all in a beautiful community with other untigering Asian women.
This is legacy work.
By the end of this program, you will:
This program includes:
- 90 minute live calls every Thursday at 1pm PST / 4pm EST. Calls include a workshop portion AND somatic portion to integrate the learning
- Curated weekly “homeplay” for you to apply, practice, and ingrain the teaching
- Intentional community with other Asian women where you can be vulnerably heard and held
You will also receive direct feedback & coaching from us during the sessions. This is an incredible value.
Space is limited to 12 members to ensure an intimate group.
Please contact me at untigering@gmail.com for payment plan options.
Want deeper support?
Sign up for a coaching package that is customized to your needs and goals.
Includes 4 private one-hour coaching calls for $888.
This offer, to be used during or after the program, is only available for those enrolled in Untiger Your Self!
FAQs
Join this special collective for Asian women where you’ll find…
Healing for your inner child.
Healing for your relationships.
Healing in community.