Untigering is About Failing Forward
There’s nothing like the end of the year to cause one to look back and take stock of the past twelve months.
As I reflect on my quest to untiger and become a gentler parent, one would expect that I’ve made significant progress, right?
Every day, I’m reminded that I still have a long way to go.
Just look at the cards that our boys gave us for Christmas.
This is what KK wrote to Jay:
This is what I got:
Notice the difference in placement of the exclamation marks.
Notice the color and whimsy of one card and the utilitarian blandness of the other.
Notice how one note is effusive in praise and the other seems to highlight flaws.
Perhaps, I’m reading into things, but it seems glaringly obvious that KK thinks my husband is a better parent.
Maybe Jay should be the one writing this blog.
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Unfortunately, I really can’t fault KK.
I AM snappy.
Especially during piano practice. Wrong notes and off beats somehow awaken my primal tiger instinct.
“How can I blog about gentle parenting when I’m failing at it so miserably?”
Then I am reminded about why I started this blog in the first place—
not to have an elite club for perfect parents, but to have a support group for parents trying to detox from the easy high of authoritarianism;
not to be a hero paving the way, but to be a companion running alongside.
Untigering is not about perfection. It’s about process.
It’s not a fixed state of being. It’s growth.
It doesn’t always look like success.
Sometimes it looks like failing forward.
“Fail early, fail often, but always fail forward.” – John C. Maxwell
I’m no hero. I have no delusions of winning this untigering marathon.
But I can be your running buddy.
I can keep cheering you on when you feel like giving up. And you can do the same for me.
In the coming year, we will inevitably fail and fall flat on our faces.
But let’s fail forward.
I’ve launched an Untigering Parents Facebook group so that we can better support each other in this process of untigering! Click on the link below to join!